This is a partnered post.
When your friends talk about having babies, it is really quite exciting. Dreaming of ten little fingers and toes that will soon be in the world. Planning nurseries, talking about where you want to take them, and imagining their whole lives for them. However, it isn’t as easy for some couples as it is for others, and some might find that their journey to having a baby is a little longer or more complicated.
But you can be a source of support, encouragement, and love when they need it – here is how.
There is going to be a crucial stage that happens, and that is after months (or more) of trying naturally to conceive – researching options. It can be a long and lonely road looking for answers and alternatives. Be a research partner when you can. Help them look at options like Advanced Fertility Center, acupuncture, diet changes, and even positions to help (to add extra fun to the process). Be around and help them put a list of options together.
One of the most common things a couple who are trying to have a baby will hear is “relax, and it will happen.” And, while some of that is actually true, it can be hard to hear from all angles. So rather than say it, facilitate it. Stress can be a contributing factor to fertility issues, so what can be done here?
Spa days, yoga retreats, meditation, swimming, a long walk. Think of all of the things that your friend loves to do and start working through the list. It might not be a magic potion, but all of these fun things will help to pass the time too. Distract and relax. It’s excellent for you both!
The journey of conception for the couple in question can be very difficult. As the months go by, each of the days between ovulation and the arrival (or not) of the menstrual cycle can be a highly emotional time.
The emotional stress and potential heartbreak month after month can be hard for the couple, and depending on the fertility issue, there might be some arguments and upset between them. There are usually two people who are on this journey, and while their partner might be putting on a stoic face, they too will be experiencing this rollercoaster. Try to respect their journey as a couple, but be mindful when any conversations turn negative about the other partner. Boundaries matter.
“It’s hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; It’s even hard to give up when you know it’s everything you want.”
There will be times that your friend will be heartbroken and feel like giving up. Be on hand to lift their spirits, and encourage them to remember why they are doing this. Being a parent is exciting and life-changing in a myriad of ways. But the journey to get there isn’t always easy.
You can be the difference between your friend feeling sad and alone, and feeling uplifted and supported.